How can your childhood sufferings be advantageous to you?

Did you have a harsh childhood?

Then, no worries! People who belong to this category are more. Let me begin by telling you about my childhood. I am not going to go too deep into it, but probably you would be able to relate it with yours.

My earliest memory of my childhood is when I was a 6 year old girl. I was playing with my stuff doll with my sister when I heard my mother crying. I looked at the kitchen and saw her begging my father. He was probably drunk and he was creating a scene when there was a talk about constructing a new house. There was some sort of physical violence too. I cried seeing my mother cry.

Such incidents are more. For a child, what she needs is a happy family. A happy and comfortable relationship between their parents. But for me such situations were less. I had a drunkard father, a mother who beat me for silly reasons and a sister who just hated me. As I grew up into a teenager, this suffering became hard to resist. And lockdown just suffocated me. In those days, I just wanted to die. I used to lock myself in my room, never talked to anyone, always stayed gloomy. I didn't phone anyone, hated to chat with my friends, and ended up turning into an introvert.

Those memories still stops me from reaching my smile. But how strong it made me, how much I have changed, only I can feel it.

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  WHAT IT TAUGHT ME?

• Self-Independent: When I realised that there are only a few people to support me or to understand me, I began to do my things alone. Starting from my household work to my school work, I began to do it myself. I never asked anyone for their note or expected anyone to help me. There were certain chores which my mother never let me do, excluding them, rest I did. I ended up being an independent girl.

• Mentally strong: Recently, I compared my reaction to certain situations to that of others of my age. I realised that majority ōf them didn't affect me. When my classmates prefer to complain about them, I continued with my routine. That's when I realised that I have become mentally strong. No matter how much others discourage me, I prefer to judge myself and self evaluate. I began to compare my present self with my past version and slowly began to improve at my tasks.

• Self -loving: No one knows you as much as you know about yourself. Hence what you think of yourself is very important. No one is going to love you until and unless you begin to love yourself. I realised that the one and only way to remain stable and take care of my mental health is by loving myself, by creating reasons to be happy. I soon began to dream of myself being successful, being loved and with a man who is going to take me to a heaven on Earth. I got many reasons to love myself. I found that side of me, where I cared for people who really treated me well; my love for those, who loved me back; my love for books and many more. When you follow this step you will find yourself worthy of being loved. Whether you get a lover or not, until and unless you love yourself, no one can stop you. Just show your true nature, your soulmate will reach you at the right time. Trust the timing of your life.

• Dream big: Hey, can you just go back to your past for a single second and wonder how things would have been if you had enough money and power? Yes, whether one accepts it or not, money rules the world. The rich have certain power. They feel themself superior, needn't worry about anything! What if you are rich as an individual? I meant, by not depending on your parents, friends or partner. You will stand out in the society. You needn't worry about others. You needn't fear about loosing people. This is possible only when your dream big. Just dreaming won't do, you should be determined enough to work to achieve it. Dream of becoming something, which will make your future safe, and which is within your capabilities. In this present world, one has infinite opportunities, but never forget that the very same opportunities are available for every individual in this planet.

• Ignoring the silly problems in our life: This would be a trait of yours. You have been through so much since a small age that, all the silly problems that tries to disturb you fails. You just need to work a little to get over it. But do you think this would have been possible if you were bought up inside a castle with maids? No! Those silly problems would just burn few people's head, but we have the advantage to remain calm and quite.

I hope you would have been able to relate yourself to this. Stay positive, believe in yourself and love yourself. When you love yourself you will end up in the right path. You are stronger than you think. You are unstoppable!